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The Prosecution: Bella

If my boyfriend fails to wear something I've offered him, I feel hurt. Purchasing gifts is my method of showing I care

I really appreciate purchasing gifts for my partner, him. It relates to affection; I become enthusiastic each time I notice a piece that reminds me of him.

I specifically like to get him outfits – I believe it gives him a little confidence boost. Even though I already appreciate his fashion sense, it's my way of demonstrating I love.

I make greater earnings than him, so it's not a big deal to purchase him presents. I realize some individuals don't show love through gifts, but when I have the means, what's the harm?

But when he doesn't wear something I've offered him, especially after I've taken care into it, I experience disappointed.

This summer, I bought him a set of denim pants. However I saw he avoided wearing them, and inquired if he liked them.

He came downstairs the next day sporting them, stating: "Look, I've got your denim on!" This caused me feel foolish.

It felt as if he was only wearing them because I had asked. To some extent felt happy, but on the other hand felt as if he was doing it to quiet me.

I don't require him to sport all gifts promptly or to perform gratitude, but when periods elapse and I don't see him wearing my items, I commence to doubt if he appreciated them in the first place.

I want him to look his finest – so, certainly, I have opinions about what fits him.

Previously, I sought to discard his footwear. I hate them. Axel got very annoyed. Maybe I overstepped a little.

He said I was trying to remove his character, but I wasn't. I simply wanted him to see what I observe: that he could seem amazing if he enhanced his clothing collection slightly.

He has got wonderful fashion sense when he chooses to, and I get disappointed when he continues with the identical things out of routine.

I imagine that's since he doesn't take as much enthusiasm in style as I do and is without as much money to invest in his clothing.

Yet, from my viewpoint, sometimes it's unrelated to the outfits at all; it's about wanting to feel that my gestures are valued.

I appreciate that my boyfriend is independent and stubborn; it's component of what makes him him. But I also wish he'd see that when I purchase him gifts, I'm simply trying to relate to him.

The Defence: Axel

I have been unattached so extensively I'm not used to others purchasing me gifts – and I don't like being told what to do

I believe my girlfriend's practice of getting me things and then becoming frustrated when I don't wear them is concerning.

Not anyone should be compelled to wear a present each time the giver desires. It reduces from the meaning of a present, which is supposed to be generous.

Concerning the denim, I simply didn't have opportunity for putting on them as it was very sweltering this period.

Yet when she questioned if I liked them, I put them on the precise next day.

Bella afterward blamed me of merely sporting them to satisfy her, which was somewhat true. But my belief is: avoid asking me to wear something you got and then blame me of not really wanting to sport it.

This situation is logical.

I need to be capable to select when to sport my clothes. Bella is being extremely sweet when she purchases me gifts, but I prefer not to experiencing forced.

She claimed I was thankless when I brought this up, but it's really not that.

Bella furthermore receives a lot more funds than me, and it doesn't represent a significant issue for her to indulge on new items.

Yet I lack that numerous outfits, and I'm accustomed to wearing the same old outfits. It takes me a some period to adjust to having recent additions in my wardrobe.

I'm also not used to individuals getting me gifts, as this is my initial partnership. There's possibly also a little of me acting stubborn.

Whenever she sought to discard my sandals, I didn't react favorably.

I actually like the denim she purchased me, but occasionally if she has a great thought, my initial reaction is to refuse to implement it, simply because I've been alone for so long and I don't like being told what to perform.

My girlfriend has additionally pointed out this propensity in me, and I realize I must to address it.

However, another part of me wonders whether Bella is purchasing me gifts because she's {trying|attempt